Poor traditional marriage... *pets*
Friday, March 9th, 2007 07:11 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
mothwing"Marriage under growing threat"
How shocking, look at that:
When will these people stop, think, and embrace non-traditional families as well?
Some of the happiest families I know are patchwork families that are certainly not traditional while some of the unhappiest families are traditional families with traditionally married people who just never got divorced rather than staying together because of the undying love and a deep spiritual connection.
Of course there ARE happy traditional families as well, and part of me has always thought that those were the lucky ones, the ones who had "gotten things right", but what I and, apparently, these people, fail to realise is that there is no "right" and "wrong" when the happiness of children is concerned, and I am sure you can be as happy or unhappy in a patchwork family or a family with parents who do not have a traditional marriage or relationship as in a traditional family with wife and husband and their two point five (one son, one daughter) ickle little kids and a dog.
This is silly beyond reason. Even if the numbers are going up, even if they're "quickie" divorces, I sincerely doubt that they are ever easy, or that non-traditional families are bad for children or society.
How shocking, look at that:
- "Curch claims traditional family unit under threat
- Divorce rates rise 19%
- Number of children born out of wedlock heads towards 50%"
When will these people stop, think, and embrace non-traditional families as well?
Some of the happiest families I know are patchwork families that are certainly not traditional while some of the unhappiest families are traditional families with traditionally married people who just never got divorced rather than staying together because of the undying love and a deep spiritual connection.
Of course there ARE happy traditional families as well, and part of me has always thought that those were the lucky ones, the ones who had "gotten things right", but what I and, apparently, these people, fail to realise is that there is no "right" and "wrong" when the happiness of children is concerned, and I am sure you can be as happy or unhappy in a patchwork family or a family with parents who do not have a traditional marriage or relationship as in a traditional family with wife and husband and their two point five (one son, one daughter) ickle little kids and a dog.
This is silly beyond reason. Even if the numbers are going up, even if they're "quickie" divorces, I sincerely doubt that they are ever easy, or that non-traditional families are bad for children or society.
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Date: Friday, March 9th, 2007 10:02 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: Saturday, March 10th, 2007 10:11 am (UTC)Ooh, and congrats on done termpaper!
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Date: Tuesday, March 13th, 2007 01:10 am (UTC)I was six years old when my mom asked my father to leave, and since I've become an adult she and I talked about those times and how she agonized over the decision to break up her family. Much as I agonized over my own to leave a man I no longer loved. My mom was barely 22 with three children already and a marriage she'd jumped into because a) she was pregnant with me and b) she couldn't wait to escape my grandmother. Breaking this up, when she felt she'd had too much to do with starting it, tore her to pieces!
And is that right? A young woman staying in a relationship with a man because that's what's expected, or because of the children? I've seen too many examples of these reasons turning in on themselves and causing even more misery! How can you not pass on a warped idea of love and relationships if you stay in such a marriage? That's always been my take.
In the end it has to do with love, and knowing that love for each other AND the child is what's important. And of course being financially stable and responsible, but I tend to lump everything under love.
*HUGS*